The issue of homosexuality is a hot topic and stirs a wide spectrum of passion. There is no shortage of indignant outrage on the topic from within organized, conservative, evangelical, Christian, religion. I wrote this blog over two years ago, but thought in the light of current events, a revised reissue would be timely.
The essence of homosexuality is the desire for the thrills of sexual intimacy with someone sexually identical to one’s self, without the hard work of learning to love someone very different than one’s self, and without the pain, discomfort and inconvenience of the logical fruit of heterosexual intimacy: children.
Jesus made it clear that before we attempt to extract a log from someone else’s eye, we need to extract the splinter in our own. Western Evangelicalism has a very large splinter: homospirituality.
On any given Sunday, “Christians” will gather with people identical to themselves. We tend to gravitate to those of the same doctrinal perspectives, ethnicity, cultural background, socioeconomic status, and values, even though the scriptures say this should not be so. Some have said that "church hour" on a given Sunday is the most segregated hour of the week in our country.
We also tend to relate with just those who “think like we do.” The basis for denominational association is the demand for identical thought and theology. In some of the more dysfunctional groups, leaders prohibit individual members from associating with others, for fear of contamination through contact with someone who thinks differently. It is dressed up as "pastorally protecting the flock." In reality it is: "We have the truth and no one else does, or at least we have it 'better' than everyone else, so you better stay with us, or you will be in grave spiritual jeopardy!"
We talk much of “intimacy with God.” The bulk of our worship services (especially in charismatic and apostolic/prophetic circles) is specifically designed to facilitate an intimate and personal God-encounter for those gathered. We pay tens of thousands of dollars for sound systems and salaries to enable the “worship team” to “create an atmosphere of intimacy.” (By the way, this a thoroughly pagan concept.).
In the natural, the logical fruit of relational intimacy with someone different than yourself is children. Children are inevitable, if the relating adults are organically healthy and if no actions are taken to prevent conception. Such is the inherent power of life: inevitability.
What is the fruit of "intimacy" in many of our “services”?
In many churches, a new convert has not been seen in years, or decades. I was in a meeting once (where the median age was 55+) where an elder told me that they did not want new converts in their "worship" gatherings, because they were the "Zadok priesthood" "ministering unto the Lord" in the Holy of Holies in their praise and worship, and the presence of a sinner would "ruin the presence," (exact phrase). After all, there can be no sin in the Most Holy Place, and God was coming to inhabit their praises and establish His Holy of Holies among them. I wish I was joking or exaggerating. I am not. In effect, the presence of a sinner would "kill the mood." So pathetic, and too common: homospiritual narcissism on steroids.
Not only are new converts frequently as rare as bacon at a bar mitzvah, but the social demographers tell us that our own natural children (as high as 80%) by the time they are 21 and "out of the house," will never serve the Lord. "Intimacy with God" has become for many, a theological fig leaf for week after week after week after week of psychic stimulus in a group of people just like me. There is no reproduction—no fruit—no new life. We want the relational ecstasy of intimacy with God, but we are not so thrilled about what is supposed to result from intimacy: children.
So let’s see . . . . . . . . . . . .
We have relationship with those just like us, we want intimacy with those same folks (and God), but we don’t want to work too hard at getting along, and we certainly don’t want to be inconvenienced with the responsibilities of guardianship for new life.
And we are going to chastise the natural homosexuals? You've got to be kidding me! Fifty percent of evangelical pastor's marriages end in divorce. Close to forty percent have had affairs. The divorce rate for Pentecostal Christians is forty-four percent. Atheists' divorce rate is thirty-seven percent  . . . . and we are going to act all "morally outraged" at homosexuals? You've got to be kidding me.
The issue is not: "Homosexuality: right or wrong?" The question is not whether the “church” should speak out on the topic from a biblical perspective or not.
The issue is entertaining the same spirit among ourselves which renders our voice spiritually impotent--no spiritual credibility or power behind our empty and indignant finger pointing at the culture. The outrage and fervor on this issue is way out of proportion, and reeks of the rankest spiritual hypocrisy this side of hell. Jesus was severe with pretentious religious hypocrites.
I am not arguing for moral relativism or laxity. I am arguing for removing our splinter before other's beam, and some self-reflection rather than finger pointing and outrage.
Judgment must begin in the house of God if that judgment is to be endorsed by heaven’s authority. At the moment, even if our words and "doctrine" to the world are "right," there is no authority from heaven backing them up, which makes them the ineffective clanging gongs of right-wing, moralistic, religious zealots.
 Statistics compiled from: Mike McManus, Harriett McManus and Chuck Colson. Living Together: Risks, Myths, and Answers. Howard Books, 2008; Beyond all Limits by Bill Bright and James Davies. New Life Publications, Orlando, FL.